Ok, so I have a question. I'm really not sure what to do about something that happened last night. tell me what you guys would do.
Last night i was checking my email, and an ex pops up on my messenger and says hi. i say hi, we still chat sometimes. then he tells me he misses me, and he still loves me, and he wishes that he could still have me in his life. He knows all about Will. he says he's happy that I have him in my life, but that he regrets losing me. I tell him that I'm totally devoted to Will, and that what he's doing is inapporpriate, and that dredging up the past is pointless, because it's the past. the thing is, that he's friends with my mom, so there are times that I have to hang out with him and such. Will knows about my past with him, and he's uncomfortable about him to begin with, but he doesn't throw a fit or anything when I go to his house with ma (she doesn't wanna go alone, cause she's not very social, so she'll only go to his get togethers if I go with her.)
So the question is, do I tell Will about the conversation last night, or do I just let it go. I don't want him to feel like i'm hiding anything from him, but at the same time, i really don't see how telling him will make anything better either. grrrr. what do you think?
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Okay, here's my take...
If I were in Will's position, I'd want to know. It doesn't really change much on his end because a) he already is uncomfortable, and this action obviously bothers you. I think communication is extremely important, so I think you should tell him.
I also think that it may be time to stop seeing this guy in social situations, and stop conversing with him if he persists with this emoting of his feelings and whatnot. Otherwise, it's just fanning the flames. I mean, how long were you with this guy?
I'd tell Will though, because it's important to be honest about things if they bother you, especially if you are planning on building something even stronger down the road (say, like marriage).
Your miles may vary, though. That's my two cents.
i say what is in the open, can be under stood better then what is in the dark/behind closed doors.
I tend to be more accepting then most folks.
Loneliness does weird things to people. If I were to be honest, there has been more then one time where I had contemplated getting back together with an ex, even my ex wife.
I have done a very similar thing to an ex who is still a very good friend. She put me in my place by explaining that She understood where I was in my life, but that my actions were starting to become inappropriate.
I stopped immediately.
It seems to me that this "Ex" does not respect you when you tell him to stop. That is where my concern arises. I can stop, think, and justify the original remarks, but the lack of respect when he is asked to stop is the big offense.
In this case, I would say that Joe's Advice sounds alright. But to each his own.
I appreciate all the comments guys. I feel like i should be honest too, but then a couple other people said I should keep my mouth shut, so I wanted more oppinions. appreciate it.
Well I will comment late but I think you Should tell Will. If you don't tell him and he finds out he will feel that you possibly still have feelings for said ex because why else would you not tell him? I think that Joe is correct in saying that you should probably not go to social gathers with ex if he does not stop and realize that you are happy where you are. Or bring Will with you, maybe then the ex should definitely get the message.
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