I talked to Brian

So Brian calls me after work last night. (my work, he still doesn't work) I told him I got that phone call, and they say we owe 3 grand. He said he knows, he's been getting the letters for a year. i asked why he didn't tell me about it, and that I hadn't been receiving the letters. He said he just figured they were sending them to me too. OK, I can understand that logic. except I wouldn't have ignored it! So I told him I was applying for a loan from my bank for the money, so that I can pay it and keep it from messing up both of our credits. I told him I was willing to work with him, and asked him if he was willing to work with me in any way shape or form. He told me that he wasn't going to make any promises that he wouldn't be able to keep. I again asked if he was willing to work with me at all? he said he can't promise anything. WTF? he said that he didn't even think the apartment was his responsibility anyway, cause he didn't want it in the first place, he just went along with it. OK, whatever! he signed the lease too! and the reason we had to get an apartment was because he couldn't get along with my mother, and we were living in her house. He finally said he would look at crunching some numbers and see what he could do.

He then proceeded to tell me that it was really hard for him to get over me, and how hard it is for him to find a job, and he's been looking so hard. poor him. I'm sorry, but I really don't believe that it takes over 2 years to find a job. McDonald's is always hiring, and you can get a crappy job and still continue to look for a better one.

He told me to msg him when i find out about the loan, and he would look into seeing what he can do about helping me out, but no promises.

it was really a terribly crappy conversation, and it reminded me what a terrible relationship i had with him, and how he hasn't changed a bit. He can still go out every night and drink and do drugs, and everything, but he can't tell me he'll give me $50 a month to take care of this. he's just as immature and irresponsible as always. He has no bills whatsoever, and he works wrestling gigs. you could mistake him for a 12 yr old little boy.

By the time I got off the phone with him, I got over to wills house, and I was upset, because it was a very unproductive phone call. i was telling will about it, and he just told me "well what did you expect?" after a couple minutes, he asked if i was gonna be crabby all night. at that point i told him that he has no comforting skills. i then told him numerous things that he has said that he should not say when trying to comfort me. like it's all my fault, are you gonna be crabby all night, your being irrational, etc. we talked a bit about how he isn't a real emotional person, and when he sees a problem he goes about trying to fix it, and not dwell on the emotional factors. uhg. well me being as emotional as i am, i asked him to maybe work on the comfort thing a little. he did tell me that no matter what the problem we can work on fixing it together, and that was pretty sweet of him. i stopped being so crabby and the rest of the night was pretty good.

I just msgd Brian and told him that i did get approved for the loan, and asked if he's figured anything out. i won't hold my breath. Everyone is telling me to just take him to small claims court. i just don't know. I'm kind of leaning towards it after my phone call with him. i mean Will says that if i do that, and he doesn't pay (which is likely) the courts can't make him pay. I mean he has no job, and no bank account anyway. but I can write like 30% off towards bad debt on my taxes next year, but only if i sue. i guess I'm still not sure if its worth it at this point. 30% of half of the $2200 i can get them talked down to by making a lump sum is only $330. then take out court costs and stuff from that, and I'll maybe write off $250. is it really worth it to take time off work I don't have to maybe write off that small amount?

what do you think?